Sunday, January 17, 2010

The Journey...

I want to share with you all some things I've learned along my short journey towards divorce. I'm not sure why I feel so compelled to share, maybe because I want to jot my emotions down.

  • Even when you're lonely, it's better to be lonely than bitter and in a relationship that isn't working.
  • Your emotions never follow a logical sequence. No matter how much you wish they would. One moment you might be on top of the world and the next you're picking yourself up off the ground.
  • Friends are an amazing support! They are there for you and cheering for you when you are at your lowest and highest points.
  • Eating alone is sometimes better. I found this out yesterday. I ate lunch alone and when I walked out, I realized that it was better to eat alone than to have to force conversation with someone I was angry with.
  • You are stronger than you think you are.
  • Sleeping in your old house isn't really as bad as you might think.
  • Through this process, you find that you truly do enjoy your own company. You must first love yourself before you can love someone else. I didn't love who I was when I was married. Sure, there was a time I did, but the past year I became someone I didn't know. I didn't like the person staring back at me in the mirror. She was someone I didn't recognize. I like the person I have become and I know I will only continue to grow as the process continues.
  • Sometimes you just have to laugh at yourself. If you're not laughing, who is going to?
  • There are a lot of things in life we take for granted. Love is one of them.
  • Every woman needs to know how to: pay bills, shovel the driveway, change a lock, reset the furnace, and attach a license plate. Doesn't mean you always have to do it, but you should know how to do it.
  • There are good days and bad days, you have to be where you are and accept it.
  • People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It's your job to figure out why they came into your life, what they taught you, and how your experience with them made you a better person.
  • Life is full of lessons. Learn from your mistakes.


Lil' Woman said...

Wonderful post...your going to be an even stronger woman after all of this! :)

Lori's mom said...

So very proud of you and the woman you continue to create from your inner strength. You've come a long way, baby!